when the racist is your family!!!
My cousin is a RACIST!!!!! I capitalised it because that is how grave the situation i am glad to report that she is a second cousin. unforunatley we share mitocondrial dna (mother’s dna we share a great grand mother).
She is the most foul degenrate RACIST, she despises dark skinned black people. Yep that’s what we have, a black woman who despises people in her own family. I found our due to the extrem upset she caused.
Starting at the beginning lets talk about another relative let’s call her scarlett, she is the kindest,strongest woman any person could be. she helped out the RACIST who we shall call copper(because that is the metal that the lowestcurrency is minted in). Copper i assumed was nice enough, had her little family and decided she would set up a business, who helped her out with childcare, Scarlett would never let her pay and looked after her child morning till night when she was studying to do her degree at home. when copper confided that she was upset because she could not secure enough money from the bank who dipped in her pocket because she wanted her family to suceed…..Scarlett.
Scarlett is the powerhouse behind us all. ambitious not only for herself but for her whole family. when copper jeopodised her family and got caught cheating on her distraught husband who held peace talks and convinced her husband to give her another chance…. you guessed it
Anyhoo scarlett was looking through the albums in coppers house, she noticed several family members were missing, including the ones that she had taken with copper’s kids when she had taken away for a weekend at alton towers (theme park). she bluffed but Scarlett was suspicious, she said nothing.
later that week my other cousin was with copper noticed the same thing and asked about it. Turns out copper has been cropping out the dark members from photos and it is not only cosmetic and aesthetic , she admitted that she felt they were disgusting to her physically and mentally not so bright (oh god she said that!!).
Her white husband flew into a rage, he is the sane one in the relationship, he told her that she was mentally unwell and that her admission had changed her in his eyes and he felt uncomfortable being with her. she felt safe enough to admit this because she assumed that my other cousin being mixed race would agree. she did not, she told us all. Scarlett went to pieces, our powerhouse was so devastated, her love and efforts were for someone who thought she was subhuman.
So why should she get a pass on her racism because she is technically black. i cannot understand where she got her mentality but here is the worry, before any of this came out, her husband being socially responsible thought he would give back to the community , by signing up to black adoption agengy.
It is an ethical nightmare, black children in care need homes, but sending them to be raise by copper is like sending them to the kkk. her husband alone … fine. Her NO WAY!If she gets a dark skin child think of the mental damage she will inflict , if the child needs loving disciplin she wont give it, she will assume that the child is just bad and not raise it.
so do i inform the agency that she is a racist who shouldn’t bring up phelm???
What to do???
Apart from feeling ashamed?
I know jesus was jewish, why is that problem for others?
I was reflecting on the images i have seen over this holy season, Easter the very festival that makes me christian. Easter is the reason why i am not part of a jewish faith. I love and respect the old testement as much as i do the new.
I have seen so many aryan jesus depicted, jesus is always depicted hanging from the cross with a giant loin cloth, disguising his circumcision, when in all truth people were probably crucified nude. Nowhere is he depicted with his curly hair which is noted as being “like woodshaving”.
It does not matter in the grand scheme of things, but i think it will do a great deal to erase some of the anti semitic elements in some churches, who hold to the idea that jews killed christ (idiotic at best, deadly and racist at worst). You only have to look at the horrendous tirade that Mel (drunk as a skunk)Gibson made. The arguement that jewish people killed christ does not hold water, judas may have betrayed him but does one man hold responsibility for all men of their race? No one ever sugguested that italians are responsible for the flux that is the middle east; really by that flawed logic you could say they caused it because the romans expelled most of the jewish people from the holy land 90 or so years after the death of jesus. Nope not heard that one.
I have seen people depict mary and infant jesus in many different ways but i have never seen a mary who had the stereotypical jewish phenotype, not to say she should be wearing a yellow star or have exagggerated features but never have i seen a young mary and seen the looks of a woman who was born and bred in the middle east, who was racially(more importantly religiously) jewish. I have seen depictions of women who look like their entire genome belongs in scandinavia,the netherlands or northern europe.
It is not really the images that matter to people who have true faith, but i feel that christianity does have problems in relation to the jewish faith, we need to have more respect for people of the jewish faith and the jewish faith itself, they gave us the old testement, and in return for the past 2 millenia we have repayed them with pogroms, hatred, discrimination and forced conversions. we need to grow the fuck up! our religions are divergent but that does not mean that we have the right to pray for their conversion(just insulting), or to confront them with things we know to be offensive or dirty to them (if you do that, pig is the right name for you).As for the lies and mistruthes that their is a world wide network of jewish people ruling the world…..PAH!!! what a load of nonsense, sorry if there was a network of jewish people controlling the world tell me why isreal the jewish homeland is constantly at war internally or externally, people need a stable base to control things outside their domain, look at the british isles, in 10th century england was created 955ad. then it rapidly started it’s colonial conquest of wales and scotland and made a furtive grasp for ireland. whilst those nations were still grasped by internal conflict and eventually over the years they fell to the organised ( and contempt worthy) england. My point is if the idea wasn’t so powerful it would be laughable.
Can we all repeat after me “there is nothing wrong with acknowledging jesus was Jewish and if he were born today he would go to synagog, The jewish faith is just as sacred as my own ”
Why can’t we all just get along??
April 28, 2009 at 12:29 pm (Africa, Africans, bigotry, black community, black people, britain, colonialism, colorism, colourism, ignorance, media, multicultralism, racism, shadism, the caribbean, the diaspora, the world, west indians) (Africa, black community, black history, black men, black people, Black women, britain, colonialism, culture, hatred, Injustice, literary comment, multicultralism, race, racism, stupidity, The black diaspora, the caribbean, the diaspora, West Indian, west indies)
I was reading the Black Snob the other day and one of her topic just struck me, it was about the diaspora and the tensions and hatred that sometimes bubbles to the surface and the mutual distrust that has grown up.
www.blacksnob.com/snob_blog/2009/4/20/why-cant-we-be-friends-the-diaspora.html
I am of west indian parentage and yes i am proud of my heritage, but that does not mean that i instantly disrespect or look down on any other part of the diaspora.I was born and bred in England in the 1980’s and i grew in a large community of others of similar background, you were either white, black caribbean, asian pakistani or asian indian. that is as diverse as my hometown got. ther was only one african boy at my school and one boy did not dilute the overall caribbean flavor of the black community, we had carnivals and community evenings dances and thus it continued until the late 1990’s when we saw a lot of african immigrants mainly from southern africa and to a lesser extent Nigeria and Ghana.
I couldn’t lie and tell you that there was rioting in the streets. But what we have is many communities co-existing that are mainly separate. The older generations i know generally were told in their youth under the british empire that they were vastly inferior than white men who lived in britain, but even though they wereinferior to white anglo saxons in the mother country (England – what fucked up rhetoric that is !!), they were of course miles better than those other black people who had been cleeved from them in the past. Colonialism worked not only for the advancement of the english language but for some very messed up racial ideals. the kind of racial ideals that asked people to devalue themselves and invest in a racial hierarchy where they were almost always at the bottom, so colonist invented a hierachy where black people could place other black people at the bottom.
My grandmother was amongst some of the more priveilaged black people in her island home, she grew up on a farm that her family owned, her family employed others, she received an education beyond the reach of most of her peers she became a nurse. she recalls a missionary from scotland coming to preach, she was in her nursing station and remembers overhearing this missionary preaching to sick children.
” You must strive to be as good as the pure white children in my parish in london, you must elevate yourselves above your base instincts, above the savagery behind africa,you and your progeny must be above your own origins “
It was 1957. My grandmother did not hear the end of his speech she had to tend to an old man.
She assures me that she was fed a steady diet of such contempt for africa and aficans. her own grandfather was a white irish man who had married a black woman and her mother (my grandmother’s mother) had angered him greatly by having babies with a man with an african mother. the “mullato” classes were socially engineering themselves to be less and less visabily black and those who flouted those convensions were punished harshly. It was the mental and physical distancing of black people in the caribbean from slavery and africa, this was a country where to be black or african in appearance was to be a slave.
It’s understandable, i would not want to be a slave nor mistaken for one. thus began a west indian pathology that saw africaness as something terrible, something to be despised.African coming to the caribbean after the Emancipation in 1838 were speaking african languages, some reminants of those languages survive but that was all. their languages were banned and mocked by the ruling classes as jabber, mumbo jumbo. it was seem in those less pc days as stupidity, any person with a brain could speak english after all…
When my grandmother arrived in England after a journey across the atlantic to spain and a train from southern spain to northern spain and then a ferry to england to meet my grandfather. Her eyes were opened to the lies of her colonial upbringing. England was not the home of christendom ,most of the people there were not even as half as devout as most black people back “home”, she saw licentiousness on a scale she had never seen. She was told that in her homeland that black people were the base and carnal by nature and sexually incontinent. but she came to a land where it was all much worse!
After 3 months she met a fellow medic at work Dr (spelling may be wrong) Ateti from somewhere in West Africa she forgets (bless her she is an old lady after all). They shared many silent lunch breaks. one day they started talking and he confessed that he was surprised that she was not loud, agressive criminal or ignorant as he had grown up believing west indians to be. they had cross words but then realised how they had been bamboozled by colonialisation. they had a good friendship until my Grandfather put a stop to it. He was not having his wife form friendships with any other man. he was less educated he was not coming from a wealthy background and probably held the friendship to be a threat to the marriage based on the stereotypes he had been fed about african men.
The 70’s were a blur of confusion, some parents fed their children the same crap that they themselves had been fed about africa and africans, until Reggae and Rastafarianism took off. The final nail in the colonial bs in my community was alex haley’s roots and the tv series. that and actually meeting real flesh and blood africans, no they did not seem that different! they were not sexually incontinent, nor the vicious villains of the colonialists.
I can only speak from experiance and cannot say what things were like on the african side of the fence. But i can say it was not only a west indian to African line. Starting primary school i was ruthlessly teased and punched( to the point of nosebleeds) by lets call him AA, who joined in the racist bullying by calling me “blackie” i pointed out that he was black too but that was apparently not important since me reasoned “yeah ,but you’re blacker than me!” But i sweep him under the carpet.
I want to talk about my ExBoyfriend who is African his name is Brown, we have a backstory if you want to know more check out my other blog cold nights no romance.
www.noromance.wordpress.com
we dated for 3 years in that time he called me jamaican (i am not jamaican),said things like “you west indians” in a tone i doubt he would tolerate about africans. “you are all the same so why can i not call you jamaican” (it takes 4 hours on a jet to get to jamaica from my island and there is not even a direct flight. he mocked my cultral heritage glibly and refused to acknowledge it until we were screaming at each other and i pulled up something african and used it in the same context. we parted ways on non ethnic basis BTW.
That is how far we have come, we can date but we need to realise that yes we can be proud of our cultral differences without it being a denial of someone elses culture, when i say Anansi stories are integral part of caribbean culture i am not denying it’s ghanian roots what i am saying is that it is as much west indian as african. Anansi had to evolve in the middle passage, we have different stories and different situations. we owe you the chracter, but he is ours too!
i digress, we have to do a lot of soul searching all of us and recognise that we need to emancipate ourselves of colonial blinkers over our eyes.
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